All of us have heard a variety of things, many from people who love us, that can have the unintended consequence of leading us into feeling ashamed of our feelings, or unheard or unseen.

A lot of us have heard the airline safety instruction ‘put on your own oxygen mask before putting on your child’s’. This same instruction has been used to provide imagery for helping our children with their dysregulated emotions while at the same time our own emotions are dysregulated.

Something kept coming up for me when Donald Trump first started running for President. It was more than the overt vulgarity, immaturity and bullying. But I knew I had to push back against these things. I know now that this was the beginning of the end of my 25 year marriage.